Between Collectivistic and Individualistic

I was reminded of this psychological observation:

Question 1:
In which kind of culture (collectivistic or individualistic) do ppl experience more loneliness?

Question 2:
which culture would there be more crime?

Question 3:
which culture would ppl experience the most happiness?

It's funny to see that the answer for all the three questions is individualistic.

Yes, we both agree they're arguable, but based on what I observed in lives of the people around me, I guess it is true.

It's just that there is one problem: they masked it up very well. They are so defensive, that you can't even have a heart-to-heart talk with those individualists about their private lives. It'll take years and maybe not even success, to step into those people's mind and know what are they thinking.

That is what that makes them tend to do something. Something abnormal, for example crime. That explains also the reason they experience the most happiness. But for that it'll have to be broken down into the characteristics and personalities of the person him-/herself. If they are to have strong drive, they can be most successful and thus to have greater joy. And to achieve something based on yourself - what else can be proud of other than yourself?

That is what that makes these people to suffer loneliness. Because of their I-can-depend-on-myself attitude, they form a barrier against the society, with the thought that they can survive the world without other people. They are the people who don't believe in "gemeinsam sind wir stark" ideology. Or "if we are together nothing is impossible. If we are divided all will fail" by Winston Churchill. Or "一木木，二木林，三木森，单丝不成线，独木不成林". They are the people who think that the people around them are not as good as them, and if they are, they will compete just to win against them. In short, they want to be "the one" in their cloud. These are the people who dominate, or want to dominate the high class in the social hierarchy, which also on the feedback make them to be "unfriendable". Or at least they are the people whom I feel uncomfortable to befriend with.

I'm not saying they're just who they are. I'm not going to cast them aside. It's just that I believe in any relationship, both sides have to do something to make the relationship work. I've seen people struggling hard and managed to get themselves out of the hole. These are the people who I want to be like one: successful, energetic, active, proactive, strong; a man of vision and character, a king; a man of power and strength, a warrior; a man of faith and wisdom, a mentor; and at the same time understanding, empathetic; a man of heart and love, a friend.

What do you think?


p/s: It's dangerous to see how much my mind can ripple from those 3 questions. :P
p/p/s: Thanks Gloria Tsan for the 3 questions.