Friendship – An Extended

..::*+ Small Talk +*::..

I see a lot of chances lying ahead for me. Just… How to juggle with them?

 

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Human has 24 hours. No one can have more. This is a fact.

 

The extend of the circle.

So is the circle-changing thingy is something that we can’t do anything about? Is it that a friendship is just something that f-r-a-g-i-l-e? Okay so this is my first of the two stories that I have. As you all well known, I went for the ski trip with my friends together. During the trip, there are some time that I spent with myself, as in like times when they’re sitting together playing the 3-players-mahjong. I thought back what I learned at the very beginning of my mentor-mentee-ship (is there better word for this?) – why are we revolving around other people? It’s like you’re as if the earth, and you’re revolving around the sun (in this case, someone else). Nowadays, what we’re doing is just for other people’s sake. It’s just like in an act – the actors and the actress are just presenting things that the viewers want to watch. You prefer to watch Jet Li fighting than singing. No offence, just some random example.

Similarly, after a small reflection, I found out that I’m too other-people orientated. What does this mean? I thought at first I’m not this kind of person, but lately I felt and I saw it myself, that I’m very mind of what others think, in this case, why doesn’t they appreciate me when I wanted to befriend with them, wanted this friendship to last possibly forever. Well, it is true that maybe their busyness keeps them away from spending time to build the friendship between him/her and me. But I thought, hmmm… why am I so frustrated when they seem not to appreciate this friendship? This is more complicated and guilty filled me when I put myself into their shoes: I sometimes really do ‘purposely’ ignore some people because I am up to something, or, lamer excuse, watching movies. I’m sorry, if you think you’re the person, for me myself know exactly who I am referring to =S

So mixture feelings between these two point of views. I thought to leave this issue there (as in in that post), but then recent incident and sudden struck of thought from what I learned from my mentor wake me up. Okay, for your inquiry, he once described me “observed things but did not think further”. As in for the incident thing, it was about a friendship between two person that I observed. Let’s start my story.

That day before we went for skiing in France (seriously I still don’t know where exactly the place is) we gathered at Karlsruhe, where my ex-girlfriend is studying. By the way, it feels like kind of impolite, so from now onwards I’ll use Theng Theng. Anyway, why Karlsruhe? Because it is the only pick-up point in Baden-Württemberg of the travel agency’s bus. Anyway, after the trip of course we also landed back in Karlsruhe. Then I was informed that a friend of hers is currently in exactly Karlsruhe doing students exchange when we had lunch together and missed the Sunday church service. I didn’t ask about it, but pretty much sure that she came to study in Germany wasn’t a forced decision. Well, I guess, then, it’s just to meet up with Theng Theng, although it’s just one semester. However, I find it kind of significant, how strong this friendship could be. I mean, from US, to Germany, for one semester, not mentioning about to pick up another language, and the jakunness (no such word, learned from Pat’s blog) when first arrive like me? hmmmm…

It’s just a friendship, you might say. But as mentioned, I think her friend (May Lin I think, not really remember) really showed the rareness in a friendship. I guess that’s a good example of the willingness to keep each other in a circle. I’m not saying “oh, you all must come Heilbronn for students exchange program also”, but merely showing a general sign of wonder God had shown to me. Amazing isn’t? To be real honest, to see such a friendship exists, I couldn’t stop but to give it a smile. A big one.

After this incident, or rather, this encounter, I feel that this is what God wants to show me, through people. Friendship is a bond that makes you smile. There’s always chances that all of us can take to keep in circles and being alive in it. Just look at the pictures of secondary friends’ or college friends’ or even primary school friends’ gathering pictures in Facebook, people’s birthday gatherings, reunions etc etc. It’s not a matter if one doesn’t want to value the friendship or not. It’s about how Y-O-U yourself wants to see something happen.

Maybe I’ll start thinking to do a students exchange semester in US, UK, France, India, Russia, Japan, South Korea, Australia, New Zealand, Malaysia, China, Indonesia, Brazil… to the places where you all are. Haha. Sorry if I had left out some countries. I am seriously joking.

But there’s an offer to do Practical Semester in Japan though. Haha. I am not joking this time.