I'm sorry

..::*+ Small Talk +*::..

Time ticks. Days by days passed by and as time goes on I’m starting to talk like a dying person. I started to think about what I wanted to do before I leave INTEC, and later depart for Germany for my further education. Maybe they’re what I want other people, especially the juniors, and super juniors to do. Those that I didn’t manage to do back then. Those that were once my dreams when I set foot into INTEC. Those that I did not tell others back then.

An old man.

A very very old one.

Awww… My DVD Rom got problem. I think it’s the lens’s problem. Not sure. Bad day for me… I have a CPU without the CD/DVD ROM now. Sick.

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I still remembered clearly, that when I was about the age to start to understand this world, my parents ever told me this: Say sorry if you do something wrong. That was sort of a lesson for me that until today I can still recall it clearly in my tiny little brain. I used to follow this principal until a day when I realized that by merely just a sorry does not mean anything at all. In fact, sorry is a word carrying negative meanings.

Without knowing the true meaning of sorry, it is an excuse to run away from a problem. A lot people think that by saying sorry any problem can be solved. No, honestly it doesn’t. Not without knowing the true meaning of saying sorry. To me, sorry means the understanding of the reason of main idea and the whole process of the problem and, knowing that, avoid, or at least, try our best not to repeat the same mistakes again. Today, seldom people realize this. The word “sorry” has been taken for granted.

After we know about the meaning of “sorry”, it is best that we learn how to say it sincerely. I’ve seen many cases around me where some conflicts, for example: misunderstandings, among my friends happened and remain unsolved for a very long time, just because neither side want to put down their ego, for just a small period of time, just to say “I’m sorry”. How sad I am to see this, because the problems are actually neither big nor complicated, but need just a word of sincere apology from both sides, which neither is able to do so. Thus a tiny little conflict lasts for almost half a year. A lot problem can be solved by just standing beside each other, same status, same pride, and say “I’m sorry”. Personally I don’t find it hard to do so, but I know, a lot people just can’t do so. Well, if only all of us can do so, many problems might be solved easily. But still, we’re all human, right?

Besides ego, some people don’t wish to say this”forbidden word” due to this reason:

He/she won’t accept my apology, when I say it to him/her. I might get things worst than ever. I better not to say it.

What else can I say? I can only keep on “sweat sweat sweat” and say “oh my god”. True, this is really a turn-around. This is a typical example of why I said most of us misunderstood the word, partially or totally. Let me ask you: are you saying sorry because you want other people to forgive you; or you are saying it because of your remorse of what you have done? Why do you need to be afraid to say sorry, just because they might not forgive you? Apology and forgiveness is two different things and thus shall not always be put together in a situation. My point is that, you need not to be afraid that other people might not forgive you, because time tells. They might not want to forgive you now, but as time goes on, who knows, things might change. This is something beyond our hands. But on the other side, apology is something that you can do with. No matter what, to say sorry sincerely is far better than not saying it. By saying sorry, you create a chance for both yourself and other people: the chance of getting forgiveness after an apology is higher than keeping your prideful mouth shut, right? By saying sorry, you will learn not to repeat the same mistakes again in the future; in short, you’re improving yourself to be a better person.

Learn to say sorry, things will be much better than nothing.

vincent